Chinese Medicine & Low Libido
Defining sexual dysfunction is tricky, because we are all individual and have different feelings and expectations regarding what’s ‘normal’ for us, ranging from being highly sexual to rarely interested. However, issues may occur when your own level of sexual interest and function changes, or isn’t aligned with that of your partner. To a certain extent, it’s normal for sexual desire to wax and wane and a low sex drive is often the result of major life changes such as illness, having a baby, menopause or ironically from the pressure of trying to have a baby. When the solution is pills for men, an anti-depressant or injection for women, all with side effects, lets look at a more natural approach, that, yes, will take more time, but it will be so worth it with long lasting results.
In traditional Chinese medicine (TCM), low libido and poor sexual function are often seen as an imbalance of Yin (female energies) and Yang (male energies)
In particular, as they relate to the Kidney organ-meridian system (which in TCM includes not only the kidneys themselves, but also the sexual organs and hormones). When the functioning of the Kidney organ-meridian, Kidney Yin and Kidney Yang are healthy and in balance, sexual vitality and performance are also likely to be strong. However, deficiency of Kidney Yang may dampen sex drive, and low levels of Kidney Yin may decrease stamina and performance (even if the desire for sex remains). Kidney Yin and Kidney Yang perpetually influence each other. All imbalances have different diagnoses in Chinese medicine and are treated with different combinations of herbs and regular acupuncture treatments.
SO WHAT CAN WE DO:
1. Movement
Women can often hold tension and repressed emotions in the pelvic area which can lead to stagnant sexual desire. Repressed emotions don’t disappear, instead, they reveal themselves in unhealthy ways and disrupt harmony in the body. The liver, in Chinese medicine, is believed to play the primary role in regulating and ventilating the flow of qi, blood, and fluids in the body's circulatory systems. The liver meridians regulate the menstrual cycle and circulate blood and hormones to and from the the uterus, ovaries, and sex organs. The Chinese medicine mindful movement Qi Gong, is an amazing movement to bring into your daily routine as there are many styles of qigong that are specifically targeted for circulation in these channels and to get the energy moving. It can help you restore your libido if you practise regularly. This qigong style is unique in that the sexual qi is quickly charged as you do the exercises, which involve shaking and vibrating the sexual organs. If your low libido comes from a place of deficiency rather than stagnation, there are numerous routines and sequences to slowly start building back up your energy and therefore build back up your sexual energy and desire. Overtraining your body can result in depleting already depleted reserves.
2. nourishing nutrition
Healthy sexuality depends on the healthy energy that you put into it, so all the attention we pay to sexuality revolves around good management of Qi (energy). You can’t put pour from an empty cup. In Chinese medicine when we look at treating low libido, we look at nutrition that will strengthen our kidney energy. This is where the real long term solutions come into play. Foods that strengthen kidney yin are red dates, black sesame seeds, seaweed, grains like barley & millet, walnuts, black beans, kidney beans, and veggies like string bean, sweet potato, tomato, water chestnut, yam, zucchini.
Herbs:
Maca is a root plant native to South America that is said to nourish the endocrine glands which produce and release sex hormones, so improving vaginal sensitivity as well as stimulating the hypothalamus, pituitary and adrenal glands, which in turn support and balance hormones and so boost flagging desire. Add a teaspoonful of the powder to a smoothie or hot drink daily.
If depression and fatigue are responsible for low libido, tonic herbs like ginseng and ashwagandha help build stamina and energy, regulate metabolic rate and protect against mental and emotional stress.
There are also some foods that are known as natural aphrodisiacs. Figs, bananas and avocados are considered libido-boosting and also provide important vitamins and minerals that can increase blood flow to the genitals and promote a health sex life.
As a general rule eat ‘food of love’ - A vibrant, energising, balanced diet plays a major role in delivering the same benefits in the bedroom, while heavy, fatty foods will make you feel sluggish. We all know that food affects your mood, behaviours and most importantly your relationship and sex drive.
3. Treatments
Acupuncture |
Acupuncture is increasingly an applied treatment for numerous sexual health conditions, it has become a popular, natural treatment for improving libido without side effects. Taking a whole body approach to issues like low libido, acupuncturists understand that challenges with libido can be an indication of a deeper, underlying issue. Acupuncture works to restore optimal health rather than suppressing or masking a particular symptom and essentially encouraging your body to do its normal job and functioning - equilibrium.
Acupuncture increases your sex drive by:
Improving circulation - Acupuncture promotes blood flow along the pathways that surround the reproductive and other organs that affect sex drive
Balancing hormones—Acupuncture helps stimulate hormonal glands
Relieving stress—Acupuncture can restore emotional balance and help you relax
Your practitioner can also work with you on a range of individual dietary and lifestyle choices that may be preventing your body from being in its optimal sexual health status
Herbal Medicine |
Herbal medicine can be a wonderful way to support your body as your herbalist can combine herbs to make formulas and tonics specific to your individual needs. For example, formulas can be created to nourish your blood in combination with herbs to improve circulation which is vital for hormonal and sexual health. For women, herbs that help to regulate the menstrual cycle and support healthy female reproductive function include white Peony root and Dong Quai.
Tao Hong Si Wu Tang is a popular blood nourishing formula. They are often taken with female reproductive tonics traditionally used to tone and preserve the Yin (such as Rehmannia, Chinese Licorice and Ginger) and promote the flow of Qi (energy) and Blood to the ovaries, uterus and pelvis (such as tangkuei and Chinese Angelica root). Chinese medicine has a long tradition of using safe, gentle aphrodisiacs and may be all you need to get your sex life back on track.
At-Home Acupressure |
Acupressure can be a really lovely way to stimulate circulatory points but to also connect with your partner with touch. Touching is a powerful thing, especially in areas that relate to a holistic view of your partner and research shows that the act of physically touching your partner helps create intimacy and relieve stress. So get your favourite oils ready.
Give a foot massage & incorporate these points
KIDNEY 1
On the sole, in the depression when the foot is in plantar flexion, approximately at the anterior third and the posterior two thirds of the line from the web between the 2nd and 3rd toes to the back of the heel.
SPLEEN 4
On the medial/inside aspect of the foot, in the depression distal and inferior to the base of the first metatarsal bone.
Gently massage Kidney 1 (KI1) and Spleen 4 (SP4), which are both located on the feet. These are considered very powerful points for balancing the subtle energies in the body while simultaneously promoting an increase in blood flow to the core of the body. Both of these points are directly and intimately connected to both the male and female reproductive organs. A foot massage will also give a quick boost of circulation and warmth to the feet, Chinese medicine maintains that cold feet means poor circulation and poor circulation makes it harder to orgasm. This may also give you a pass to continue wearing socks during sex!!
• Massage Stomach 30
Level with the superior edge of the pubic bone, 2 cun (roughly 2 finger- breaths) lateral to the mid-line. It can also be found halfway from the midline to the lateral border of the rectus abdominis muscle at that level. Stomach 30 (ST30) is right near a main artery, which again, helps to increase blood flow in the body. Slowly press on this pressure point for a few seconds, hold, and release.
4. Self Care
Join Forces |
In ancient Chinese medicine philosophy, yin and yang (night/day, hot/cold) is a concept of dualism, describing how seemingly opposite or contrary forces may actually be complementary, interconnected, and interdependent in the natural world, and how they may give rise to each other as they interrelate to one another. These interactions require a mutual interdependence and connection. Poor sexual health and low libido can often have roots in a lack of connection with your partner. This can happen for a variety of reasons, lack of time, stress, busy schedules with children etc. Make time for date night or allow space where intimacy and connection can happen.
From a Chinese medicine perspective, sex, in the context of a supportive relationship, is important. The Taoist sages would say that having sex connects us energetically to our partners. This is known as He Qi, which literally means “joining energy.” It refers to the way that in a good sexual relationship, both partners contribute energy to each other. By doing this, the Taoists believed that it was possible to use sex to increase lifespan and heal the body.
Sleep & Time |
Many of us have a hectic lifestyle that can lead to sleep deprivation. Being busy also makes it difficult to make time for sex and intimacy. People who balance work with caring for aging parents or young children are often left exhausted, which can lead to a reduced sex drive. It is like during from an empty cup. At times we all need to reflect where we can cut down on unnecessary stress or rushing around. Try and prioritise what needs to be done in the week, you may have more time than you think on your hands.
Stress Management |
No matter how healthy you are, being stressed out can affect your sex drive and decrease your kidney Qi (energy). Women are particularly susceptible to the effects that stress can have on one’s sex life, according to research. Try to manage the stress in your life with rituals and practices that resonate with you, such as mindful movement (yoga, Qi Gong), meditation, time for you. This also allows time for connection with yourself, as if this is lost than connection with others can be hard.
